I’m probably one of the most bias people on earth in regards to this subject. Should you send out your wedding invitations via the internet? NO! I know it may sound like a good idea, but it can cause more trouble than it’s worth. Just listen to what my etiquette bible (Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition) has to say on the subject…
They sound so practical, thrifty and green–and they are. If those were the only criteria for sending electronic wedding invitations, they’d be used by more couples. If you’re intriqued by the concept, consider these points:
- Do all your guests use email and check it regularly? This may be the case for your younger guests, but not for yout Great-Aunt Sadie. Some services also require Internet access to view and respond to the invitation. You may end up having to print some invitations and mail them, which could cut down on the convenience factor.
- Will it get delivered? While posted snail mail has been known to go astray, emails can fall victim to misspelled addresses and spam blockers.
- Is it personal and special enough? A wedding invitation is one of the most personal invitations issued, and an electronic version may not convey that sentiment. Its ephemeral nature doesn’t give it keepsake status.
- Will it make responding easier or more timely? Not necessarily. The good guest will respond right away, no matter how the invitation is issued. Butt for the rest of the world, unless you set up reminders (and don’t set them for two days before the wedding!) once the email notice falls below the screen, it may be out of sight, out of mind. Follow-up phone calls are likely.
I get asked this question all the time… Do I have to invite my co-workers to my wedding. Thanks to the Emily Post blog, Etiquette Daily, we have our answer:
Q: How do you handle co-workers on a job who anticipate receiving an invitation to attend your wedding when they are only offered to attend your bridal shower? If you have coworkers attend a bridal shower, should they also be invited to the wedding?
A: If an office group gives a shower for a bride-to-be, it does not mean at all that she must then invite everyone to the wedding. The office shower takes the place of any other wedding celebration for co-workers who want to celebrate such a happy event. The only office co-workers who you might invite to your wedding would be those who are also personal friends outside the work place.
This dilemma seems to come up a lot (even at our wedding). Thanks to the Emily Post blog, Etiquette Daily, we have our answer…
Q: What is the proper seating at the church and reception for a wedding with one set of parents divorced? The groom’s parents are a couple and the bride’s parents are divorces, both with other partners.
A: When parents are divorced, the mother of the bride or groom most usually is seated in the front row or pew either alone or with her spouse or a companion of her choice. Members of her immediate family are seated behind her, and the father is seated three or so rows back with his spouse, alone, or with a companion of his choice. At the reception, divorced parents are not seated at the same table. Rather each “hosts” his or her own table of friends/relatives. Divorced parents should not be treated as a couple, including in photographs. It is fine for the bride to have a picture taken with her father alone, and her father and stepmother, if he is remarried; and another with her mother alone, and her mother and stepfather, if she is remarried. But, if the bride feels that she would like to have a photograph with both of her birth parents together for sentimental reasons, this is also perfectly acceptable.
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I often get this question whenever a couple has asked me to create their rehearsal dinner invitations. I usually tell them, “It’s your rehearsal dinner. So ultimately, it’s up to you.” However, the Emily Post blog, Etiquette Daily, explains it much better than I!
Q: In general, what is the rule of thumb when extending invitations to a rehearsal dinner prior to a wedding?
A: We assume you mean who should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. If this is the case, guests at the rehearsal dinner include parents and grandparents of the bride and groom, siblings of the bride and groom, members of the wedding party, the officiant, and the spouses/fiances/fiancees/significant others of each of those guests. There is no reason to invite out of town guests unless space and finances permit and you desire to invite them – the rehearsal dinner is really the time for immediate family members and members of the bridal party to share special moments before the flurry of the wedding. Making the guest list too big detracts from this closeness. There is no need to invite a date for any single persons – but it is expected that significant others be invited. It also can be difficult to include aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. because there can be a huge number of them. It is up to you whether godparents or a very close aunt and uncle are invited.